This mornings beautiful Wyoming Sunrise….
I used it in a Heavy/Light photo challenge today
it’s much how I feel with grief there are heavy and light moments
The Key to truly moving forward and gaining peace…
You know how much you’ve been changed because of their death
but imagine how much you’ve been changed because of their life.
The loss is real….so very real!!! Yet so is the gain 🙂
Ask yourself these questions:
Who were you before they entered your life?
Who did they help you become?
How are you different for having loved them?
Now go and hold those answers close to your heart.
With grief its obvious and easy to notice
what you have physically lost.
Little things like
The sound of their voice, their hugs, phone calls, texts and letters
contagious smiles and just doing stuff together, even disagreements.
Remember the good times and the bad times alike they all make up
who you are at this very moment in time.
There was a gain and a loss by that love.
The relationship is not over with our loved ones just
because they are physically gone from our site.
Their spirit still imprints this life you shared.
Your life is forever imprinted by these events
You still talk to your loved ones
maybe you even write to them
I found myself alarmed recently realizing our sons memories are fading.
This saddens me. There are things he thinks he remembers
however they are not all of accuracy.
However there are things
he does that are forever imprinted without his knowing.
Little things the annoying and not so annoying alike.
He eats anything (except brussel sprouts and okra) His dad was’t a picky eater
if anything he got upset if I didn’t have enough veggies lol.
Our son will eat food cold or hot he’s not picky his dad was the same
prefers meat med rare….both these make me sick to my stomach
seriously raviolis from the can…yuck
He loves oatmeal every morning plain
The sound as he walks across the floor with his cowboy boots
His constant go go go, willingness to work, helping others without expecting
anything in return, love for animals.
We were going thru stuff from storage and my daughter found this old photo
of their father roughly same age I forgot to look before putting it away…
but they could be twins!
Our daughters have much of him as well though one doesn’t want to hear
a word of it.
Thru our kids he lives on forever.
The essence of your loved ones are always with you.
Our son was young when our world was rocked but
the essential parts were imprinted on our heart and soul.
I use my son as an example as he was young so much he
can’t really remember just certain moments and events yet
he is so much like his father without knowing.